My two years old girl always has so many reasons to throw tantrum. She spins around, throw her toys and climb up the fence while crying out loud. I believe many parents out there with kids’ age between two until four face this problem. Yes, it’s kind of embarrassing, but, as a matter of fact, most parents are, were and will going through this phase. Instead of seeking the reason in superstitious way, let us find out the scientific explanations in this matter.
According to a developmental psychologist, Judith Hudson in her article “What Can I Do About My 2 Year-Olds Public Tantrum”, she said, “Tantrums are a fact of life when you live with a 2-year-old. Your best defense is a good offense — whenever possible, try to avoid situations that could provoke a tantrum.”
She added, it might be easier say than done, but she shared some tips that might be handy to parents. Here are some tips to deal with 2 year olds public tantrum :
• A tantrum is more likely when your child is tired or hungry, so try to save your grocery shopping and trips to the post office for when he's fed and rested — and always keep a snack handy.
• Frustration is also a big tantrum-trigger. If you know your child is going to insist on visiting the pet store when you go to the mall, make sure you have time to do it, or think twice about the trip. This isn't really giving in to your child; it's just predicting how he's likely to react and thinking through the consequences and alternatives.
Of course, avoiding a tantrum isn't always possible. Once one starts, it's hard to reason with your child. If you find his public tantrum embarrassing, your best move is to leave. Becoming harsh or punitive won't help end the tantrum and will only get you more upset and angry. Remember: Your job is to remain as calm as possible. Leaving the situation helps everybody, even if it means you'll have to go back to the store later to finish your shopping. If you can't leave altogether, try to exit the immediate scene. Rather than letting him tantrum in the dentist's waiting room, for instance, at least go out into the hall or parking lot.
Once the tantrum subsides, your child may need hugs and reassurance, since being that out of control can be scary for him. Hugs are fine, but don't change the rules after a tantrum. If you told him that it was time to leave the playground and he responded with a tantrum, it's still time to go when the tantrum is over. But once you know how strongly he feels, you can acknowledge those feelings and try to make leaving less painful by offering to read a favorite story when you get home.
Keep in mind that your child's tantrum is nobody's business but yours. Your child will have tantrums, and some of them are bound to happen in public. It doesn't mean you're a bad parent, only that you're the parent of a 2-year-old. People may be looking at you, but it's very possible that they're feeling sympathetic, not critical. Regardless of any looks you get, remember that your child doesn't understand your embarrassment. Public tantrums aren't meant to humiliate you, so treat your child the same as you would if the tantrum happened at home.
It may also help to know that while the frequency of tantrums will probably increase until your child turns 2 1/2, they should start to wane after that. You may simply want to stick close to home — or be prepared to make a quick exit — until that happen
• A tantrum is more likely when your child is tired or hungry, so try to save your grocery shopping and trips to the post office for when he's fed and rested — and always keep a snack handy.
• Frustration is also a big tantrum-trigger. If you know your child is going to insist on visiting the pet store when you go to the mall, make sure you have time to do it, or think twice about the trip. This isn't really giving in to your child; it's just predicting how he's likely to react and thinking through the consequences and alternatives.
Of course, avoiding a tantrum isn't always possible. Once one starts, it's hard to reason with your child. If you find his public tantrum embarrassing, your best move is to leave. Becoming harsh or punitive won't help end the tantrum and will only get you more upset and angry. Remember: Your job is to remain as calm as possible. Leaving the situation helps everybody, even if it means you'll have to go back to the store later to finish your shopping. If you can't leave altogether, try to exit the immediate scene. Rather than letting him tantrum in the dentist's waiting room, for instance, at least go out into the hall or parking lot.
Once the tantrum subsides, your child may need hugs and reassurance, since being that out of control can be scary for him. Hugs are fine, but don't change the rules after a tantrum. If you told him that it was time to leave the playground and he responded with a tantrum, it's still time to go when the tantrum is over. But once you know how strongly he feels, you can acknowledge those feelings and try to make leaving less painful by offering to read a favorite story when you get home.
Keep in mind that your child's tantrum is nobody's business but yours. Your child will have tantrums, and some of them are bound to happen in public. It doesn't mean you're a bad parent, only that you're the parent of a 2-year-old. People may be looking at you, but it's very possible that they're feeling sympathetic, not critical. Regardless of any looks you get, remember that your child doesn't understand your embarrassment. Public tantrums aren't meant to humiliate you, so treat your child the same as you would if the tantrum happened at home.
It may also help to know that while the frequency of tantrums will probably increase until your child turns 2 1/2, they should start to wane after that. You may simply want to stick close to home — or be prepared to make a quick exit — until that happen
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